What Finding Nemo taught us about compassion and victim mentality
These are things that need to be said, and you've said them well.
A notable aspect of those who promote the victim mentality is a small picture, stuck in the moment view of the world. In the film, Gil understands that Nemo's painful struggle in a given moment is temporary, but the lesson he takes away from it will be carried through life. If the lesson is "wait for someone to save you because you can't do it yourself" it will not serve him well. Adults who intervene to help when it's unnecessary are serving their own needs, and depriving children of the tools they need to succeed in life.
I'm reminded of a great old cartoon in the New Yorker. A middle aged woman in a fur coat and jewels was pushing her son in a wheelchair and responding to someone's sympathetic noises with "Of course he can walk! But thank God he doesn't have to!"
Very well written! I love the bit about how he could have had them "maim themselves" for the purpose of "equity". You made very clear points here, and I greatly appreciate it. All the best to you, thank you for all your hard work, and for using your voice for those who don't have one or don't know what to say. God bless!